"One Christmas was so much like another in those years..."

Today is the first anniversary of my Mum's death - Mum, Granny Gin, Granny Great aka the Intrepid Granny on these pages. Please don't sign out on the grounds that this is going to bring down your festive mood. I promise it won't because this is a celebration of all the things that made up our Christmas with the Intrepid Granny for many years. 

She had declared, well over 20 years ago, that she intended to spend all her future Christmases in Yorkshire. With a few exceptions she pretty much pulled that off and the first ringing of the Christmas bell would be in August when she would ask: "What are we doing for Christmas?" Love it! In just six words she was announcing her intention to come to us and whatever we were doing, she was doing it too. 

We would try to hold off her arrival at York Station until the 22nd or 23rd of December because a) we'd only just celebrated her birthday and b) once she arrived we had to be ready to entertain her. I or latterly any of the children with a driving licence would collect her from a member of York Station staff who would be clutching her many bags crammed with things she thought we might like - or sometimes things she thought might 'go off' whilst she was away. And of course, she instantly wanted to know the full programme of events. 

Fast forward to Christmas Eve when my beloved wouldn't even have started wrapping, and me peeling, chopping and stuffing for all I'm worth in the kitchen. There would be church at some point - either during the day when the children were small and could barely contain their excitement - or at midnight when Mum and I would creep out of the house for the magical counting down to Christ's birth in our quiet village church. My beloved would still be up wrapping on our return when we were leaving bite marks in the reindeer carrots and knocking back Santa's sherry.

But before all that, after supper on Christmas Eve we would sit and read Dylan Thomas' A Child's Christmas in Wales, which always started with me reading: "One Christmas was so much like another in those years, around the sea town corner now and out of all sound..." and then the book handed round for each of us to read a page or two. One of my favourite parts of Christmas - no television, no music, just the sound of our voices telling the beautiful story of mischief, snow and cats. 

I have lots of pictures of us all on Christmas morning sitting in dressing gowns with a discarded wrapping paper mountain of excitement. The believing years were, of course, the most special and the two older were very good about not letting cats out of bags for the younger two. The Intrepid Granny would sit in the middle of it all, unwrapping her stocking with slightly less giddiness but twinkling as only grannies can. 

Our only social outing of the day would be up in the village to our always-hospitable Irish chums. Half the village would be there, quaffing fizz, eating smoked salmon and swapping Christmas news. Teenagers wearing whatever new Christmas clothes they had been given, then in later years, bringing along fiancés and new husbands or wives. Our whole family was always welcomed including Mum. Other grannies would cluster in a less congested part of the kitchen, chatting amongst themselves, each unable to hear the other in the hubbub. Not the Intrepid Granny... she would be regaling the young cricketers of the village with her tales of Edgbaston, Lords, the Oval, and the MCG, for she had travelled the world watching England play cricket. I always wondered whether it was polite respect or genuine enjoyment on their part - I think the latter because she was a great storyteller of sporting derring-do.

Then there was the squeezing of lunch into the gap between socialising and The Queen. Other guests and family members might arrive and somehow food would make it to the table. Some years, pudding didn't happen until after Her Majesty - and sometimes, if we were too full, not at all. Then standing for the National Anthem - always - and silence throughout before Mum would comment at the end on how well HM looked, how wonderful were her words and so on. Polite nodding before the second unwrapping began. 

An innings collapse in front of the television for the whole team and some quiet snoring from one or two older members or if we were feeling more lively, we would do Granny's Christmas Quiz which had usually been garnered from the Golf Club and which generally took us three or four days to complete. 

Mum loved it all. The centre of all things, sometimes driving me mad with questions and requirements when I was wrestling the bird, or the ham or anything else. Her insistence on everyone having a sprout. Her absolutely intention of not missing a moment. 

It's the changing of the guard for our Christmas now. It will never be quite the same, whether here or in Liverpool or wherever we land. But we'll always be thinking of her. Especially when the plates of smoked salmon* come out. 

                                    Mum on her 90th birthday cruise - still a little girl at heart! 

*Her favourite food along with Marks and Spencers' chocolate eclairs!